Anger as asserting "that's your problem, not mine"

anger is the means by which we assert "this is your problem, not mine" (from a convo w @QiaochuYuan)

Jul 13, 2022

@QiaochuYuan Someone tells you they don't like your vibe/hair/whatever? "Fuck off!" = "That's your problem"

Partner or teacher can't handle your current level of development? "This is where I am and I'm not gonna rush myself!" = "That's your problem"

Malcolm Ocean 🏴‍☠️ @Malcolm_Ocean · Apr 5, 2022

if something feels off, slow the fuck down if people tell you not to slow the fuck down, tell them to shut the fuck up if they won't shut the fuck up, get the fuck out

Roommate leaves dishes in the sink? "Bro! Clean this the fuck up" = "That's your problem"

Parent is dysregulated and blames their kid? "You should know better!" = "That's your problem" ...I didn't say that this assertion of "that's your problem" is always fair or just or kind or honest. Just that it is making something someone else's problem!

Set a clear boundary? "if you don't X I'm leaving" = [and that will be your problem] tasshin.com/blog/boundarie…