5 tweets · August 2024 · 120 likes · 2 retweets · read on Twitter
what she says: I would marry you but not hook up with you what he hears: you're disgusting, a sweeper, I wouldn't even want someone to see us together what she means: you're charming/husbandzone so I don't want to get attached if this isn't going anywhere chart from @ItIsHoeMath:
video on the chart NOTE: I'm sure there's a lot of people (men and women) for whom this doesn't resonate. but if you've never considered that maybe the opposite sex thinks of things totally differently than you, this might be good for loosening your sense youtube.com/watch?v=n4aMiA…
here's takes from the guy who created this chart, who seems pretty taken by gender-war stuff like his points are good, but also wracked with zero-sum status game vibes that seem to me fairly incompatible with cultivating sane spacious love
also: all of these are simultaneously the case: - we have a lot of instincts, impulses, urges, desires from pre-birth-control times - these... are somewhat out of date, and we know this—it clearly DOES affect our behavior. most people today DO fuck people we would not want to have kids with, who we wouldn't fuck without birth control - we, as humans, are not subject to our instincts as much as other animals. memes and prefrontal cortex reasoning have real power! - however, we often assume memes and prefrontal cortex have more power than they in fact do, and can get nasty surprises when we or others don't act like we naively thought we/they somehow would
well-articulated by Emmett here strikes me as interesting to note that the capacity to see what the woman was (very inarticulately) genuinely intending as a compliment, is showing up in joyously married men. idk if there'd be a strong correlation but...