When you choose & clarify a new goal, the vividness of that desired future draws you into it, today
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When you choose & clarify a new goal, the vividness of that desired future draws you into it, today
Imagine finally getting your side-hustle started and profitable. That's probably not going to happen if you keep doing what you're currently doing.
But somehow, if you consider some different world, and it's clear you want to move towards it (maybe you don't!) then it'll suddenly lay bare: you gotta do new stuff to get there
And you may not know what you need to do—in fact, you almost certainly don't! But you can at least start down some new paths...
Don't get stuck here, but if the next step isn't clear, the next step is "find a plausible next step" Brainstorm ideas. Try stuff. Read a book. Talk to someone who did something similar. Sit and do nothing until a move arises.
You don't need to do the most important thing, either. Just find something that isn't obviously NOT the most important thing, and do that. Then do another.
Part of how you can tell you've set a new goal, on any timescale, is you have a clear sense of some new things that you're going to do. Some good examples from my life: 💿 record an album → list out potential songs 📈 grow Complice → fix site analytics
Generators for next actions: 🤔 list out decision options & criteria 🔬 set up better measurements / feedback loops 🌄 new daily habit until better one found ☎️ call a friend to ask for advice 📖 buy (or finally open) relevant book 👩💻 mkdir newproj; cd newproj; git init
It's all one step, then another. At most points in a project you have LOTS of potential next steps and in fact the challenge becomes picking which. This is where again, you keep the goal in mind as you consider each step. Which step fits the path best?
It's all a series of steps, but it's also learning. YOU are going to change and evolve. You'll develop new skills, and find ways to get help where you fall short.
Don't worry: you don't need to make all of those changes all at once. They'll happen on the journey, as you keep the goal in mind and take each next step towards it in the present. I knew how to code when I started Complice, but not much more!
I love helping people think through this stuff, because it's been so meaningful & satisfying for me to set aside standard life scripts and do what I want because it's what I want. And I love living with the consequences.
Fuck that sounds cheesy. It's true though. And part of what my freedom/consequences tweet is pointing at is the importance of embracing ALL aspects of the future you're envisioning. Otherwise despite "choosing" the goal, the conflict will cause resistance.
And honestly inner conflict has turned out to be one of the main things we look at at our Goal-Crafting Intensive workshops. The workshop content still starts with clarifying goals though, because otherwise there's nothing even worth being conflicted about!
We've got more sessions coming up, one this weekend and 4 in January. Hit this link for more info and/or to sign up. It's more of the vibe of this thread, but with a container to work on it plus lots of coaches to help you get unstuck. complice.co/event/gci?tw=m…