January 2019

The easiest way to ensure something happens this year is to make it happen today.

Jan 1, 2019 7 likes 2 RTs

The easiest way to ensure something happens today is to make it happen now.

Jan 1, 2019 3 likes 0 RTs

The first, of course, is very often not possible. Many things take multiple days, even if that's just some waiting for people/weather/paint-to-dry. But the core principle still holds. You want something to happen this year? What's the next step? There's got to be one.

Jan 1, 2019 3 likes 0 RTs

And if you don't know the next step, then I do! It's... ...figure out the next step. You can do this by journalling, talking with a friend, asking someone who's done it before, trying a related experiment that might get you more data, etc.

Jan 1, 2019 4 likes 0 RTs

I want a system that will let me tweet from my phone without being able to *read* twitter on my phone. Preferably that can let me queue up a tweet offline too. Tweetstorm = optional bonus. Does this exist or do I need to build it? RT to indicate "I would also use this."

Jan 1, 2019 11 likes 4 RTs

Note: while I'm seriously thinking I might not want to have the twitter app on my phone, you might want this even if you do. Use-cases: ✈tweet while on airplane mode / offline 🛌tweet right before bed without getting sucked back into twitter ✅tweet mid-task without distraction

Jan 1, 2019 4 likes 0 RTs

@visakanv (I thought I had tweeted this like a year ago but apparently not so I tweeted it just now so I could link it as a related thought but not one I first had in response to this one.)

Jan 1, 2019 0 likes 0 RTs

@dela3499 @reasonisfun Here they are as text (wouldn't fit in previous tweet). They're abstract, but still meaningful: • I keep losing touch with my long-term goals ... • My to-do list just keeps accumulating things endlessly ... • I struggle with being satisfied with my productivity ...

Jan 2, 2019 0 likes 0 RTs

@wrathofgnon (I think part of why I say "most things are not designed" is because I have the impression that most human-made objects are terrible in ways that nobody could have possibly intended if they'd thought about it *literally at all*.)

Jan 2, 2019 1 like 0 RTs

@wrathofgnon Most objects have a few parts designed, or they couldn't get sold at all. eg got a new rice cooker (bc old one not nonstick) J: "rice isn't done" Me: "no, it is. the new rice cooker uses orange light for COOK & for WARM instead of diff colors which obv better with ANY thought"

Jan 2, 2019 1 like 0 RTs

@wrathofgnon Prior to modernish era, probably often that-which-was-not-designed was inherited/evolved, so it still got some good optimization pressure. But modernish era of design starts from scratch or fashion instead of tradition, so that-which-is-not-designed just gets no thought at all.

Jan 2, 2019 2 likes 0 RTs

@dela3499 I'll probably get into it at some point. I beatbox, and sonically, my main idol is probably... beardyman, who can do amazing stuff both with just his voice, and also with electronic fx. 0:00→1:30 in this video really shows that off. (rest of vid is okay) youtube.com/watch?v=HbX6_I…

Jan 3, 2019 0 likes 0 RTs

@dela3499 In terms of writing lyrics of songs, I look up to Barenaked Ladies, Jason Mraz, Leonard Cohen, and others. I would say BNL were metamodern before that was even a thing, managing to say things in a simultaneously deeply sincere and deeply ironic way.

Jan 3, 2019 0 likes 0 RTs

@dela3499 If I had to pick one musician that I really like the lyrics and also the instrumentation of, I'd probably go with Robert DeLong (@DeLongMusic) youtube.com/watch?v=nnSyu4…

Jan 3, 2019 1 like 0 RTs

Wow, we've nearly sold out the first two sessions of our online Goal-Crafting Intensive workshops this weekend! 🚀 (Still a few tickets and ~15 hours to buy one, if you want to join us for planning your year: complice.co/event/plan2019…) Also, a thread 👇👇

Jan 4, 2019 2 likes 1 RT

Also only about 24 hours to buy @fortelabs' & @TaylorPearsonMe New Year's bundle which includes... a remarkably similar event—that's also this weekend! My jaw dropped a bit when I saw Tiago's announcement email, because of the similarities: praxis.fortelabs.co/theannualrevie…

Jan 4, 2019 0 likes 0 RTs

Similarities • virtual workshop • Zoom video call • hours of Slack-based Q&A etc • time for private reflection • group accountability • much more course content than you can actually use during this one event ...and of course the purpose: review last year & plan next year

Jan 4, 2019 0 likes 0 RTs

Is this a coincidence? I'm genuinely not sure. I do know that last year I emailed @fortelabs and told him about our event, because I thought he'd appreciate the pedagogical approach we were taking, which (as far as I know) is a rather unique structure:

Jan 4, 2019 0 likes 0 RTs

I was thinking it was likely he wouldn't be interested in coaching, but figured our workshop format was something he'd appreciate anyway and that maybe I'd see him try it for his PKM content. I was surprised that it's... the same concept/purpose, the same weekend.

Jan 4, 2019 0 likes 0 RTs

As the surprise wore off... I wondered if I was upset... or... was I supposed to be upset? But then on reflection, I felt mostly a mix of: • curious (was this intentional or did it bubble up from his subconscious?) • flattered ("imitation is the sincerest form of") • excited!

Jan 4, 2019 2 likes 0 RTs

I wasn't worried about losing customers (huge space, ~separate mktg channels). So instead, this is a cool opportunity for us to compare variations and see how they each go! Main differences: • duration (5h vs full-day) • # coaches (many vs 2) • $ / PWYW • the actual content

Jan 4, 2019 1 like 0 RTs

So yeah! I'm hoping to get a chance to talk with @fortelabs & @TaylorPearsonMe about their experience running this structure of event, as part of learning how to design future video/chat/solo hybrid workshops.

Jan 4, 2019 0 likes 0 RTs

I would also be down to help somebody else design or execute a similar workshop structure for something they know how to teach and think would work well with this format 🙃 It works particularly well for things where people want accountability, but could be anything really.

Jan 4, 2019 0 likes 0 RTs

Oh and here's another link to our event: complice.co/event/plan2019… And another link to theirs: praxis.fortelabs.co/theannualrevie… Happy New Year whereever you are this weekend 😎

Jan 4, 2019 1 like 0 RTs

@alexeyguzey But also totally different from that. The point is, the kind of happy loopy drunk sleep dep seems characteristic of "I haven't gotten enough REM sleep the last day or two" but there's a qualitatively different thing (😑→🧱-wall) that happens after days of no SWS.

Jan 4, 2019 0 likes 0 RTs

@alexeyguzey My new model of things includes a moderate-to-significant hypomania/hyperthymia component, where more manic sorts of times are characterized by less sleep and lower-energy times by more, and these moods & sleep cycles are mutually reinforcing until something breaks.

Jan 4, 2019 0 likes 0 RTs

@alexeyguzey I wouldn't be super surprised if, in a multi-month solo retreat context where my schedule was easy to control, I found myself on a 4.5h+2nap or maybe even 3h+3nap schedule, and that were relatively sustainable. 3nap probably suboptimal, but 2nap might be as workable as 1nap.

Jan 4, 2019 0 likes 0 RTs

@garybasin I'm wanting to point at the difference between talking about "defecting" and talking about "choosing the option that game theorists call DEFECT". You have a different conversation depending on how you talk about it.

Jan 6, 2019 3 likes 1 RT

Quoth @cognazor on @peternlimberg's podcast: "Right now... if somebody were to say 'I want to make a living as a memetic mediator'... good luck. Right? It's not gonna happen. But 20 years from now there might be people who play that role..." 1⃣

Jan 7, 2019 5 likes 1 RT

This is a great chance to deconstruct the difference between "apply for a job opening as" and "make a living as". There are no job openings for memetic mediator—I checked, to make sure: 2⃣

Jan 7, 2019 1 like 0 RTs

But off the top of my head here's 3 ways you might be able to make a living while playing a memetic mediator role: • do it publicly or semi-publicly (a podcast?) & have a patreon • get funding from a grant (as an org?) • find an organization that doesn't know it needs you 3⃣

Jan 7, 2019 4 likes 0 RTs

Will any of these be easy? Nope. Blazing new trails never is. So I'll second @cognazor's "Good luck"—'cause you'll need some. But I contest his "it's not gonna happen." I absolutely think this is very possible for someone who is committed and has enough runway to get started. 4⃣

Jan 7, 2019 2 likes 0 RTs

And if you think "could that be me?" (I'm talking to you specifically, @cognazor, as well as anyone else who reads this tweet) then I would love to talk with you. I'm interested in financial independence in general, and also the world needs pro memetic mediators. 5⃣

Jan 7, 2019 1 like 0 RTs

@robertskmiles @webdevMason (Note that not everyone would necessarily want to say this. My full-time project at the moment is building post-blame cultures, so I'm on the extreme end of this.) That said, post-blame relating seems to be necessary for consistently feedback flow, hence for effective teamwork.

Jan 8, 2019 0 likes 0 RTs

@eriktorenberg @garybasin Another piece... sometimes someone tries to hold you accountable for doing something that you never agreed to do. They generated an expectation, from some concept of you or their relationship to you ("of course you should X, you're my girlfriend!")

Jan 8, 2019 0 likes 0 RTs

@eriktorenberg @garybasin It makes a difference to get more clear about what's being expected, and why, so that you can respond to expectation-reality gaps with awareness and inquiry rather than outrage and punishment. malcolmocean.com/2017/09/the-th…

Jan 8, 2019 0 likes 0 RTs

@eriktorenberg @garybasin And we haven't even gotten to the part where many many many real situations are not zero-sum games like prisoner's dilemmas (or if they are, it's on a level of abstraction nobody is tracking). People tend to value each others' experience at least somewhat; game theory assumes no.

Jan 8, 2019 0 likes 0 RTs

@SamoBurja When listening to it, I found myself initially defending that I had done that, speaking about how my former partner was too attached. But then the people I listened to it with pointed at how I was attached to my concept of myself as non-attached.

Jan 8, 2019 4 likes 0 RTs

@SamoBurja On further reflection it was apparent that that non-attachment concept was clearly enabling ways in which I was putting our relationship at stake to get what I wanted. My current sense of integrity is that I wouldn't continue to be in a relationship I was willing to do that to.

Jan 8, 2019 6 likes 0 RTs

The 10 percent of the brain myth is actually onto something! ...but it's not that 90% isn't not in use—it's that... most people have 45% fighting another 45%, so on net there's 10% useful capacity.

Jan 10, 2019 188 likes 33 RTs

(A case could be made that some brains actually have 55%+ warring against 55%+, with a resultant net negative useful capacity.)

Jan 10, 2019 27 likes 0 RTs

@eriktorenberg Which I apparently didn't actually link! Thought I had. It's relevant to this topic: malcolmocean.com/2019/01/nothin…

Jan 10, 2019 0 likes 0 RTs

@reasonisfun @ToKTeacher Reminds me of BoI... rational & irrational memes. I deliberately copied the numbers of the 10% meme to make my variant memetically competitive against original myth, which means relying on my followers' critical faculties to interpret it into something that's better still :)

Jan 13, 2019 1 like 0 RTs

@ToKTeacher The resolution to the paradox being, as I said, that that overlap is fighting internally over which side to fight for. And the whole thing is fractal! Static societies are built on people being systematically blocked from resolving these conflicts, due to irrational meme traumas

Jan 13, 2019 0 likes 0 RTs

+1 to the general pattern of "this problem is important and I will help you (find funding) to work on it." (the problem in this case is peer review systems for ML research)

Catherine Olsson @catherineols · Jan 9, 2019

My goal here is to send out yet another beacon, so "startup types" who are looking for a problem to solve might notice. There's a HUGE problem here. Please, somebody, help. If you want to work on this, but need a way to fund yourself, I will personally help you find funding.

Jan 13, 2019 2 likes 1 RT

Btw for anyone finding this tweet later, I wrote a whole blog post about it: malcolmocean.com/2017/06/toward…

Jan 15, 2019 5 likes 1 RT

@antonjw @cosimia_ (Or ↘️ is about conflict-avoidance. People get into mindless, purposeless solo flows that way, playing an okay video game instead of facing "what do I really want?". Also people get into interpersonal flow just chilling & hanging out, which is also in the ↘️ quadrant.)

Jan 15, 2019 0 likes 0 RTs

@antonjw @cosimia_ & ↖ quad might include the kind of flow that a 6yo piano student gets into, where they're indeed focused and engaged, but it has a background of fear & resent rather than purposefulness. "Purpose" is somewhat confused in this model; can be an internal boss/worker conflict.

Jan 15, 2019 1 like 0 RTs

@visakanv & ofc, also by virtue of being younger, they have less knowledge. So part of where the seeming paradox of kids being both intelligent and stupid is this. Oh! Also: "try things & make mistakes" is an important part of intelligent learning, but is considered "stupid" by schools.

Jan 20, 2019 3 likes 0 RTs

@visakanv @reasonisfun thought you'd be interested in this thread

Jan 20, 2019 1 like 0 RTs

@fortelabs Run this on every page: window.onclick = function (e) {if (/a/i.test(e.target.nodeName)) {e.preventDefault(); var href = e.target.getAttribute('href'); var x = confirm("Press OK to read later or Cancel to open now"); if (!x) {location.href = href}}}

Jan 20, 2019 0 likes 0 RTs

@fortelabs (This obvs isn't a full solution but you could make one that would combine this plus the instapaper bookmarklet script (instapaper.com/save) to automatically save it in the one condition. Would also want to use addEventListener instead of onclick= so to not overwrite)

Jan 20, 2019 0 likes 0 RTs

@utotranslucence @eriktorenberg @_TamaraWinter @SarahAMcManus I told my dad that my involvement in this project was giving me equiv of 20h therapy/week. He said "I don't think it's healthy for anyone to get that much therapy." Which—of course not, in a clinical model! In fact, it's actually paradoxical... 2⃣

Jan 22, 2019 1 like 0 RTs

@utotranslucence @eriktorenberg @_TamaraWinter @SarahAMcManus The paradox: clinical therapy relies on forced separation of the lives of the therapist and client. At 20+ hours of therapy per week, you are clearly part of your therapist's life & vv. So getting that level of trauma therapy *requires* it to be part of every day life. 3⃣

Jan 22, 2019 1 like 0 RTs

@utotranslucence @eriktorenberg @_TamaraWinter @SarahAMcManus Current models of psychotherapy also sometimes restrict people in support groups (eg DBT for BPD) from connecting outside of the support groups, due to privacy etc concerns. ...which both reinforces the stigma and also prevents natural therapy after the program ends! 4⃣

Jan 22, 2019 1 like 0 RTs

@utotranslucence @eriktorenberg @_TamaraWinter @SarahAMcManus I'm envisaging a gathering, maybe autumn equinox...? Somewhere in nature (beach, forest?) where nobody who isn't part of it will be able to hear us. I needed to be out in the desert to let myself yell/howl/wail so loud. Had to really trust that nobody would hear→freak out.

Jan 22, 2019 1 like 0 RTs

@Johnny_Uzan Let's examine on a smaller scale: "goal for this hour overambitious; goal for today tame". Lots of substantial projects can be achieved in the span of a day if you take them seriously. But also trying to get some chunk of that done can easily take more than the hour you envision.

Jan 23, 2019 0 likes 0 RTs

@Johnny_Uzan And people usually aren't trying to achieve a THING with their day, they're trying to get a dozen random things done, each of which will take more time than is estimated. Similarly, most people aren't trying to achieve a THING with their year, they're just doing 1000s of things.

Jan 23, 2019 1 like 0 RTs

@Johnny_Uzan (Or just trying to get through 100s of days.) So then the decade scale. Most ppl don't even *have* a 10-year vision, let alone a tame one. W/o a 10y big-picture purpose, it's hard make tough decisions of which year-long projs to pursue. which'll take 2 years, but be worth it.

Jan 23, 2019 1 like 0 RTs

@cosimia_ (Which I guess is to say that if you notice parts of the site that are not gorgeous, I won't be too surprised, and I would be interested in feedback on those. Or on other aspects! I value your perspective from reading your tweets.)

Jan 23, 2019 1 like 0 RTs

@micahtredding @DaultRadio I would be very interested to hear the extent to which R-not-S-identified folks would describe their religious practice as being "sacred"! (& what other related words do you resonate with or not? What's the crux of that?)

Jan 24, 2019 2 likes 0 RTs

@utotranslucence (I have in general been assuming that it was an instance of mind-projection fallacy—one of the main scientists behind that model very clearly hates surprises.)

Jan 24, 2019 1 like 0 RTs

@webdevMason To be clear, when I say "on any scale" I'm including right down to the very tiny personal stuff. "Yeah, I really need to do my homework. I should just stop procrastinating." (That "just" omits the most important piece: the reason you were "procrastinating" in the first place!)

Jan 24, 2019 2 likes 0 RTs

< the music builds... > < it's about to drop... > Me, listening to dubstep while programming: "BUST THE CACHE" < 🎇 drop! 🔥 >

Jan 25, 2019 2 likes 0 RTs

One of my users: "you should set complice.co up to work with the @Brave @AttentionToken... maybe you've got lots of users who use Brave—check your analytics" Me: "my analytics report doesn't show any Brave users at all! ...because Brave blocks Google Analytics 🙃"

Jan 26, 2019 1 like 0 RTs

(This actually presents a curious conundrum! If you're trying to grow a new privacy-oriented browser, and it blocks analytics, site owners won't know how popular that browser is with their site, making it hard to justify building things for it.)

Jan 26, 2019 1 like 0 RTs

You've rendered your new views from mustache So don't just stand there bust the cache

Jan 26, 2019 0 likes 0 RTs

@SarahAMcManus @tasshinfogleman (Sarah: this was since you left; its 19-01-24 🔜 if you're looking for it) eg: "okay, I'm imagining that if our conversation breaks right now, I would probably go do some writing re: regret" ↑ Isn't a proposal to end the convo, nor an anti-proposal, just info for co-thinking.

Jan 26, 2019 2 likes 0 RTs

@visakanv @DavidDeutschOxf But fascinatingly in the meantime we're in this limbo space where it's imaginable for a father to reflect like this across the fourth wall... ...but we don't yet have the space for the father to break the wall between him & his son, and say "that was weird" instead of continuing

Jan 26, 2019 2 likes 0 RTs

What's something you were working on a year ago but have since abandoned? (a plan, a project, an idea) What deeper purpose was it pointed towards, that you still care about and intend to achieve? (even if you don't know how)

Jan 27, 2019 2 likes 1 RT

For me: a workshop on navigating internal conflict that emerged out of a recognition that that was a major issue that people at our Goal-Crafting Intensive workshops were dealing with, and also that it's a huge point of leverage. The specific workshop concept was abandoned...

Jan 27, 2019 0 likes 0 RTs

...but we're still very keen to develop systems, practices, contexts, etc, to help people work with internal conflict. We're just going to start from a different place with it (and possibly a different "we").

Jan 27, 2019 0 likes 0 RTs