4 tweets · February 2022 · 49 likes · 1 retweets · read on Twitter
"I need to fill my life with less waiting and more doing my own thing" — a friend of mine I think that's true for almost everybody and is part of the whole "refactoring self-other boundary" process I've been talking about if I'm on my own, I can do whatever I want!
if I'm trying to coordinate with other people, then I can't do whatever I want, I need to find some sort of thing that *we* want together (what Duncan Sabien calls "coferences" in the post below) medium.com/@ThingMaker/ne…
in my experience, I often forget that I'm on my own when I'm on my own I'll have a sort of nebulous sense of wanting to do something with a housemate or partner or whatever, but... not actually be coordinating with them, so there's no way to find satisfying clarity of what to do