I am coming to the conclusion that everything I was trying to get myself to do is better approached by exploring how to allow myself to do it 😤✋❌ how do I get myself to do the thing? 😎👉✅ how do I allow myself to do the thing?
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I am coming to the conclusion that everything I was trying to get myself to do is better approached by exploring how to allow myself to do it 😤✋❌ how do I get myself to do the thing? 😎👉✅ how do I allow myself to do the thing?
if "I want to do the thing", great! the motivation IS THERE, for some part of me calling itself Malcolm. the issue is that some *other* part of me doesn't want to do the thing, for whatever reason, or I'd simply be doing it
so there's a part of me, in other words, that isn't *allowing* me to do the thing that I supposedly want to do (I say "supposedly" because the part claiming I want to is necessarily also partial) and that's the part with the agency to enable the thing!
so the question is: if I supposedly want to do a thing, and I'm not, can I find the part of me that doesn't want to do it, inhabit its perspective, see what it's caring for, and bring that into contact with my desire to do the thing & the whole situation?
this is a lens on using the therapeutic reconsolidation process *in each moment* kind of implicitly inspired by PCT, along with a ton of other things including @m_ashcroft's stuff I'm sure plus my dying meditation
I'm practicing this on really basic stuff atm eg "can I allow myself to get out of bed?" 🛌 which was the motivating impetus for the first tweet in this thread (which I thought I'd tweeted a couple days ago but apparently it got lost somehow)
of course, the even further extremes of "get myself to do" are "make myself do" or "force myself to do". but it's not about the force, it's just that "get" is still privileging the perspective that already *wants* to do the thing, not the part that is disallowing it.
worth noting that there may be a "should you reverse any advice you hear" thing here afaict this new approach is thoroughly backed by systems thinking and in some sense universally applicable, but its pragmatic usefulness for me rn may be related to the phase I'm at ymmv!
ah yeah it's trippy—the more dominant part *also* has to allow pausing to take the perspective of the other part
there's a whole dance here, which ultimately is the thing I call a trust-dance full-fractal buy-in this koan
"non-obstruction" as another frame on allowing