5 tweets · October 2020 · 62 likes · 1 retweets · read on Twitter
An underappreciated implication of things like Core Transformation is that if you generalize it to other people, you realize… …the things your loved ones do that annoy you most are often precisely the ways in which they're most reliably able to care for themselves.
For me, sensing this even at a really high level, even if I don't fully understand the nature of the integrity that is driving the annoying pattern, profoundly transforms my experience of relating with people, and gives me way more space to understand their experience.
Also, it must be said over and over: this does NOT mean you're supposed to LIKE the annoying thing the other person is doing. That interpretation of what I've said above is another endemic confusion, like this one:
Another clarification, re > the things your loved ones do that annoy you most are often precisely the ways in which they're most reliably able to care for themselves. This doesn't mean their care in this domain is effective, to be clear. Just that it is intense and sacred.
> Gupta's First Law: "Every exceptional ability first began as defenses" — @AdmiralOPG (twitter.com/AdmiralOPG/sta…)