5 tweets · May 2021 · 35 likes · 1 retweets · read on Twitter
Apparently I have some pockets of insecurity I wasn't aware of! Reading a few comments like this about me has me going "uhh guys wait" I think there's a real thing there, that's like, not wanting people to overestimate me & then get whiplashily disillusioned, which has happened.
But it raises a fascinating Q about how to actually *do* the having-people-not-overestimate thing. They're ofc gonna have whatever expectations it makes sense to them to have based on their set of experiences (of life and of me). I don't *want* to give them shitty experiences.
Another Q of course is whether enough trust & meta-level workability can be built that we can weather whatever storms may come. If you aren't overcorrecting you're undercorrecting.
It's also important to note that as far as expectations & betrayal goes, I've mostly been a source of pain & whiplash to people I've been in really close intense relationships with, so people expecting me to be grounded on twitter and calls are in a sense well-calibrated.
But then there's the question of what sorts of extrapolations people are making from their various experiences, to other contexts. What are the implications of anything?