in some ways NVC ("Non-Violent Communication") can be seen as "we're safe in this room because everyone walked through a metal detector on the way in, and left any weapons outside" which points at both the power and limitations of it
NVC as disarming worldviews rather than banning them
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what's being left outside are stories/worldviews/meanings it's "violent" to bid for "this is the true narrative" (much language does this). one (kegan 5 lol?) option is multiple stories instead, NVC bans stories and says "figure out a solution w/o story"
banning stories is surprisingly effective! turns out you don't need a shared story to get along, you just need an interface that's workable at both ends if Alice is kind to Bob because humanism, and Bob is kind to Alice because God, then as long as they can agree on "kind", ✅
ahh yeah, my metaphor is actually misleading, umm... okay if worldviews are weapons, NVC does NOT actually have a metal detector outside the door. it rather teaches you how to disarm yourself and others, including while they're brandishing
like NVC doesn't require others to speak in a particular way, but *does* neutralize the worldview from anything they say to be clear, I think this is pretty epic and I'm not skilled at doing it this way although I've gotten increasingly interested in it as one tool in a toolbelt