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You can't make new old friends

6 tweets · August 2021 · 72 likes · 8 retweets · read on Twitter

the thing about old friends is that you can't get new ones

I mean you can, but not as old as the old ones you can't make new childhood friends once you're in high school you can't make new high school friends in college you can't make new college friends in your 30s you can't "go way back with" people you meet in your 60s

the implications of this aren't totally clear, but as I've come to appreciate it it's made me cherish the close relationships I have with people I've known a long time and want to gently kindle the ones that are falling out of touch

Malcolm Ocean 🏴‍☠️ @Malcolm_Ocean ·

The people you spend time with will end up being the people you've spent time with. Most people don't realize this.

picking up with old friends is remarkably possible, if it's still a good fit now your heart remembers the laughs you've shared

Malcolm Ocean 🏴‍☠️ @Malcolm_Ocean ·

Btw, what's happening here isn't a biological flaw. It's the brain working effectively to rapidly generate a model of what's going on and what to do about it. Same hardware that lets you "pick up like it was just yesterday" when you meet an old friend you haven't seen in years.

"friendship is like wine"

FANTA SIPPER🍹💶👸 @Anambra_girl ·

Never abandon old friends; you will never find a new one who can take their place. Friendship is like wine; it gets better as it grows older.

friendships are unique

Malcolm Ocean 🏴‍☠️ @Malcolm_Ocean ·

That which is unique, breaks. Commodities break too, but are easily replaced. When you break a chair, you buy another. We know well how to make one thousand chairs. They sit in boxes, ready for two-day shipping. But when the unique breaks, we might mend. simonsarris.substack.com/p/that-which-i…